If a woman decides to go ahead with abortion, what changes can be expected in her?

Immediately after the surgery the mother will either feel relieved that it is over -

- or she will have begun to realise the implications of what she has done. If there is realisation she may be somewhere between upset to hysterical.

She may also be in pain and be suffering from the anaesthetic. Sooner or later she will grieve.

This may have already started or may start as long as 20 years after the event. This grieving is natural, for she is a mother and her baby is dead. She will cry and her partner will attempt to comfort her. But how can he comfort her? Can he replace the child now lost forever?

He could give her a kiss and a cuddle, but that will not stop her from crying. He will look on in total frustration as he feels powerless to provide any real help.

The changes will be seen as she withdraws from all unnecessary communication and concentrates on living in her own world within her mind. She may not know why this is happening. But her partner will know the symptoms, and will watch those special qualities, the ones that helped him to fall in love with her, being replaced with the ugly symptoms of post abortion syndrome.

If he was not strong enough to offer her the support she needed in something natural, her pregnancy, how can he possibly be strong enough to help her work through this enormously difficult period in her life?